The Power of Love: Why I Believe in Love’s Ability to Heal
I never fully understood the scripture that says, “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:44). It felt counterintuitive—why would I offer love to someone who has hurt me? But over time, through my own healing and my work as a yoga therapist, I’ve come to see love as an incredible force of transformation.
Love Is Not About Surrendering—It’s About Understanding
Conflict, at its core, is often the result of discontent. When someone is at war with themselves, they bring that war to others. This is why loving your enemies is not about condoning their actions or passively accepting harm—it’s about breaking the cycle of reactivity. When we hold onto anger, we keep ourselves in battle. But when we see others through the lens of compassion, we no longer carry their pain as our own.
Love and the Bhagavad Gita: Fighting with Compassion
Yoga and the Bhagavad Gita offer a nuanced perspective on love and conflict. Krishna tells Arjuna that sometimes, we must fight—not out of hatred, but from a place of dharma, of righteous action. Love doesn’t mean we avoid confrontation or allow harm. It means we act with clarity, without attachment to a specific outcome.
This work is not theoretical for me—it is my life’s work. As a yoga therapist, I help people regulate their nervous systems, set boundaries, and find peace amidst chaos. I don’t say this from a vacuum. I have worked in the entertainment business, I have walked through a divorce, and I have navigated relationships that tested every boundary I thought I had. Through all of it, I have come to see that love—true love, rooted in wisdom—is the only thing that ever really heals.
The Let Them Theory and the Golden Rule
This brings me to a conversation I had about Mel Robbins’ new book, The Let Them Theory. Someone pointed out that we can’t just “let them” when it comes to our children’s safety. And they’re right—we have a responsibility to protect, guide, and stand up for what matters.
But the let them part is about surrendering control over how others respond. We can take action, but we don’t have to attach our peace to whether someone agrees, changes, or reacts the way we hope.
Through all of this, the Golden Rule—treat others as you would want to be treated—has taken on a deeper meaning for me. It’s not just about kindness; it’s about embodying the energy we wish to see in the world. When we operate from love, we create a ripple effect. When we hold onto bitterness, we do the same.
Love in Action
Loving your enemy doesn’t mean tolerating mistreatment or never setting boundaries. It means we choose not to carry hatred. It means we protect our peace, stand in our truth, and fight when necessary—but without letting that fight consume us.
Love is the most radical choice we can make. It’s what allows us to heal, to break generational cycles, and to truly be free.
